DOES HE TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED?
The early days of a new relationship are exciting indeed. You’ve found a man who makes you feel special and who is fun to be around. Over time, though, as the two of you become more familiar with each other it’s easy to fall into the same old routine. When this happens you may start to feel as if he’s taking you for granted. How do you know if this is the case?
The Warning Signs
The sense of being taken for granted usually doesn’t just appear overnight. It kind of creeps up on you, a little at a time, until eventually you start to notice that something about the relationship is different. Here are some of the telltale signs that he may be taking you for granted:
What You Can Do About It
If you feel like he’s taking you for granted, don’t panic and don’t jump to conclusions. Think about specific examples of times when you’ve felt that way, and write down a short description of what happened and how you felt.
Ask for some of his undivided attention and tell him honestly how you feel, but don’t be accusing or blaming. If he denies that he takes you for granted, give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he just doesn’t realize he’s doing it, or maybe he doesn’t realize the impact his actions have on you. Share your examples with him so that he gets a better idea of exactly what you mean.
Most men will apologize and make an effort to be more appreciative of you. If he doesn’t, though, there might be something deeper going on with the relationship and you need to work with him to find out what it is.
What If I Notice He’s Making Changes?
“Affirmations are like prescriptions for certain
aspects of yourself you want to change.”
-- Jerry Frankhouser
Congratulations! Your man cares enough about you to listen to your feelings and take action to strengthen the relationship. Give him affirmation that you’ve noticed the changes he’s making and you appreciate his efforts. Relationship counselors advise that you say five positive things for every one negative thing, so keep this in mind as you’re reinforcing the changes he’s making.